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Feb. 16th, 2013

Parenting for Sadists: Too Old For Me To Open A Can of Whoop-Ass?

Part Eleven of a series. Because this series has gotten so long, I am no longer including links to the other posts at the top of these articles. Instead, please scroll down and select the “Parenting for Sadists” tag for the rest of the articles.

As usual, the article contained below contains graphic descriptions of child abuse, so please read at your own discretion.

T

Oct. 16th, 2012

My Business, Your Business, Everyone Else's Business

I hesitate to write this, because it seems like lately the Lawn is becoming less and less of a fun, interesting blog and more and more of a ranty political blog. I don't really like that. I will be so glad when this election season is over, maybe then things will calm down and I'll stop being inclined to write these sorts of articles and more inclined to focus on less depressing and serious topics. But I honestly do think that these things are a serious problem, and that this kind of thinking erodes at basic freedoms of thought and speech. People are attempting to become the thought police, and you get shouted down if you dare express an opinion that is different from the Hivemind.

I am talking, of course, about one's political views and personal beliefs, and I find it kind of sickening that this is the second post with the same basic premise I've written in a month.

You can have your own beliefs. Just let everyone else have theirs.

Now, obviously, I'm not trying to say that you cannot critique anyone else's beliefs. There are some things that I find absolutely morally bankrupt (see the Parenting for Sadists series as an example), and I will not hesitate to write about those things. But, while I do address Michael Pearl directly in those posts, I don't actually expect him to ever read them. It is a rhetorical device. If I was to actually speak to Pearl face-to-face, I would be a lot more respectful than I am in the Parenting for Sadists series. It doesn't mean my thoughts on his work have changed at all, but that there is a certain expectation of rhetorical etiquette when you are engaging directly with the person whose beliefs you are criticizing. The best way to get someone you are engaging with directly to completely disregard you is to bombard them with invective.

I have previously compared the way that some people engage with individuals that they disagree with to Gordon Ramsay on meth. That, I have come to realize, is unfair. Gordon Ramsay, while he is confrontational and fond of the F-bomb, actually isn't quite so rabid as the majority of political bloggers. The difference is that while Ramsay likes to scream swear words, he won't do it unless you fuck up, and even then he doesn't mean to cast aspersions on you as a person. He just thinks your cooking sucks. But these bloggers, if you disagree with them, suddenly you are literally Hitler and not worthy of respect. They also attack in swarms. There's only one Gordon Ramsay. If you get on the bad side of a political blogger, you piss off ALL the political bloggers. And they do not hesitate to let you know about it.

There have even been incidents where these people have set out to cause repercussions for the people they disagree with in real life, going so far as to contact their opponent's employers and try to get them fired. I am just going to say that that sort of behavior is absolutely disgusting. Attempting to destroy someone's livelihood because of an Internet disagreement is disproportionate reaction. There, I said it.

I can already hear your objections. “But Kaboom!” you'd say. “Isn't that what you're trying to do to Michael Pearl and No Greater Joy?” Well, not exactly. Yes, I wouldn't be too sorry if No Greater Joy Ministries was to shut down tomorrow, and I honestly do think that Pearl ought to be held at least partially accountable for the deaths of the children whose parents utilized his materials. But Michael Pearl is his own boss. NGM is his business. He owns it. He makes a great deal of money from pushing dangerous ideas to parents of young children. He advocates beating babies with tree branches, for fuck's sake! That is a HUGE difference from a guy who just posts on his own blog that he supports the opposite presidential candidate that you do. If you can't see the difference, then I say this with all due respect, but get your head out of your ass.

Since the beginning of the United States, there have been opposite political parties. Even during George Washington's time they had the Federalists and the Anti-Federalists. Yet, despite the fact that since the beginning of the nation there have been people on opposite sides of the political spectrum, we've only had one civil war. I ask you- do you really want to go there again? That is what I fear may happen if this current trend keeps up. No, I don't think part of the country is going to try to secede again. But if stupid arguments over who to vote for are getting this ugly, where people try to get their opponent fired from their job, I worry that it's only a matter of time before someone confronts someone else in real life, and the conflict escalates to the point of violence. THAT is how civil wars start, my friends. The government doesn't necessarily have to crack down on their own people, like what's happening currently in Syria. Sometimes, the conflict starts between citizens.

I don't know about you, but I kind of like living in a free country.

Again, this is not to say that you can never disagree with anyone. That is not what I'm saying at all. What I'm saying is that you need to keep a sense of proportion. Simple disagreements about politics are not worth destroying real-life relationships over. I mean, fuck, I don't even like Mitt Romney and yet here I am writing over a thousand words defending people who want to support him and who did nothing more offensive than post on their own webspace that they support him.

I know this may be kind of hypocritical, and quite possibly unnecessary since I never get comments anyway, but I'm going to disable comments on this post. It is not because I do not respect your opinion, but because I actually want people to think about this for a bit, without just reacting blindly. I am also going to tag this with the Parenting for Sadists tag since it makes extensive reference to that series.

I'm not going to be naïve and say that everyone should just get along, but I am going to say that three are proportionate reactions, and disproportionate reactions. Attempting to destroy someone's business over a political disagreement is disproportionate. Disagreeing, maybe even impolitely, on your own blog? THAT is proportionate.

Aug. 12th, 2012

Parenting for Sadists: Not-So-Grand Grandparents

Part Ten of a series. Since it's gotten so long I am no longer putting links to the other articles at the top of these, so if you want to find them click the Parenting for Sadists tag, they're all there. As usual for the series here, most of the post goes under the cut to protect readers who aren't willing to read discussion of child abuse. Although I will say that this particular article is a lot less... horrible than some of the others. I wouldn't say it's NSFW, but I would caution against reading it in a place of business.

May. 17th, 2012

Parenting for Sadists: Ignorance. Ignorance Everywhere.

Part 9 of a series, click the Parenting for Sadists tag to find parts 1 through 8. This is the last part of the same article I've been dissecting since Part 7, thank Longcat. That fucking article is like gamma radiation for me- if it went on for too much longer I think it would turn me into Kaboom-Hulk and then I'd start smashing the shit out of everything.

As per usual, most of the post goes behind the cut, NSFW, warnings for child abuse, and this time, please be aware that this article contains discussion of suicide, death of adults, and sexual assault as well as the usual discussion of child abuse.

Mar. 25th, 2012

Parenting for Sadists: Liar Liar Pants on Fire

Since this series is getting so long, just click the “parenting for sadists” tag in the sidebar now- it will make things a lot easier. Articles are sorted with the most recent first.

As per usual, most of this post goes behind the cut, to avoid exposing anyone to anything they're not in a place to deal with right now. NSFW, warning for child abuse. This is part 8, I think everyone knows how this goes by now...

Dec. 18th, 2011

Parenting for Sadists: Apparently I'm A Socialist Now

Since this is the seventh part of this series, I think everyone knows the drill by now- most of the content goes under the cut, warnings are in place for child abuse and emotional manipulation, and Michael Pearl is a douchecanoe. There, did I cover all my bases? Good.

Nov. 11th, 2011

Parenting for Sadists: I Think You Will Find It Is YOU Who Is Emotional Manipulation!

As per usual for this series, NSFW, warning for child abuse, most of the post is behind the cut.

Sep. 5th, 2011

Parenting for Sadists: Not Even Church Is Safe, Apparently


FULL DISCLAIMER: Copyright law states that I have to do this, and put the address, website, and contact information for the sick fucks who wrote this mess that I will be quoting heavily from. I have placed it at the bottom of this article, but for the love of everything that you hold dear, DO NOT ACTUALLY CLICK THE LINKS. These... “people” (and I use that word in the loosest sense of the term) do not deserve any more traffic. The citation links in the paragraph do not link to their website, and are there for corroboration, but I would advise against clicking on them, either. I wanted to take a shower after reading that, and I want to take another shower after typing this up. This is some seriously sick, twisted shit. Whatever you do, DO NOT TAKE ANYTHING WRITTEN HERE AS AN ENDORSEMENT OF THESE METHODS. I would hope that would be obvious, though.

VERY NSFW. WARNING FOR CHILD ABUSE As usual for this series, most of the post goes behind the cut so that I don't accidentally expose anyone to something they don't think they can handle.

Part One
Part Two
Part Three
Part Four

Aug. 16th, 2011

Parenting for Sadists: Anderson Cooper vs. the Pearls

Part One
Part Two
Part Three

I'm working on another article dissecting the Pearl's articles, but it daunts me, it's so graphic. I can't really work on it for more than a few minutes at a time without feeling sick to my stomach. But Anderson Cooper did an exposé on Michael and Debi Pearl, which has very good analysis. Please be aware that these videos are very graphic and show the damage done to a person's body from following the methods outlined in To Train Up A Child.

Video Here

May. 25th, 2011

Parenting For Sadists: How To Fail at Sex Ed And Psychology (And Being A Decent Human Being)

Part Two in a series.

I was going to do this earlier, but I felt ill every time I started working it. I just can't fathom anyone treating their children this way- I'm not a mother, but I do know that good parents don't need to beat the shit out of their kids to raise them well. And because the extended family will be welcoming a new member any time now, this is heavily weighing on my mind. I'm not worried about the parents-to-be falling into this stuff, they're not religious and probably wouldn't get involved with a bunch of nutjobs that believe you should beat your babies, but just the idea of the mini-one coming into a world where there are people that honestly believe this is OK gives me the shivers.

FULL DISCLAIMER: Copyright law states that I have to do this, and put the address, website, and contact information for the sick fucks who wrote this mess that I will be quoting heavily from. I have placed it at the bottom of this article, but for the love of everything that you hold dear, DO NOT ACTUALLY CLICK THE LINKS. These... “people” (and I use that word in the loosest sense of the term) do not deserve any more traffic. The citation links in the paragraph do not link to their website, and are there for corroboration, but I would advise against clicking on them, either. I wanted to take a shower after reading that, and I want to take another shower after typing this up. This is some seriously sick, twisted shit. Whatever you do, DO NOT TAKE ANYTHING WRITTEN HERE AS AN ENDORSEMENT OF THESE METHODS. I would hope that would be obvious, though.

VERY NSWF. TRIGGER WARNING FOR CHILD ABUSE OF MULTIPLE KINDS. Like before, I usually don't do this for blog posts that aren't fiction, but because the content in here is so severe, I'm putting it behind a cut. The reason this whole thing took so long was because I kept feeling ill whenever I tried to work on it. This isn't the kind of thing I like to blog about, but it's necessary. I might not be the most moral person on the planet, but I have standards. Exposing cruelty to children is one standard I will uphold.

Apr. 23rd, 2011

Parenting for Sadists

Part One in a two-part series

Full disclaimer: Copyright law states that I have to do this, and put the address, website, and contact information for the sick fucks who wrote this mess that I will be quoting heavily from. I have placed it at the bottom of this article, but for the love of everything that you hold dear, DO NOT ACTUALLY CLICK THE LINKS. These... “people” (and I use that word in the loosest sense of the term) do not deserve any more traffic. The citation links in the paragraph do not link to their website, and are there for corroboration, but I would advise against clicking on them, either. I wanted to take a shower after reading that, and I want to take another shower after typing this up. This is some seriously sick, twisted shit. Whatever you do, DO NOT TAKE ANYTHING WRITTEN HERE AS AN ENDORSEMENT OF THESE METHODS. I would hope that would be obvious, though.

VERY NSFW. TRIGGER WARNING FOR CHILD ABUSE. I almost never do this for blog posts that aren't fiction, but I'm warning and putting the rest of this behind a cut so that you can make a choice as to whether or not you want to view the rest of this content. This is a two-part article, broken up for length.